Easy Rhinestone Jewelry and a Personal Story

May 7, 2013Allison Murray

Do you have things that you don’t want other people to know about? Maybe it’s a scar on your face that you keep bangs to help cover up or a medication that you take that you don’t want anybody to know about… We all have those kinds of things. For me, it’s my dominant right hand and to say I’m a little bit uncomfortable talking about something I try to hide in public is kind of awkward, but it is what it is.

I guess it’s been about 5 years or so now that I had a bit of an accident where lost my right pinkie. I had to have surgery to have it reattached followed by another surgery to repair the quickie reattachment and weeks upon weeks of physical therapy. The muscles that side of my palm were also severely damaged. Nowadays my pinkie is deformed and basically non-functional but at least it’s there.

That first year I had such a hard time. I’d cry and get upset, why couldn’t somebody who just watches TV all day have this happen? Why would this happen to somebody who can’t keep her hands still? Why not Somebody whose job doesn’t require dexterity?

I don’t know how many times I picked up my crochet hook to give it a go, only to have to put it down after some incredibly frustrating minutes. But I knew that I still had a hand and that was cause to be thankful, lots of people aren’t so lucky. That’s right, this girl with the jacked up hand is lucky :)

One of the first things I could do well again is crochet. It took me about 2-3 years before I could hold a needle well enough to take embroidery back up. Only in the past year or so have people noticed that my handwriting is starting to look like my own again. Last year I started making jewelry and it can be so frustrating dealing with such little things. But I pick my jump ring that flew across the room and give it another go. Like I said before, it is what it is.

So when I really wanted to make some of those rhinestone and macramé style bracelets I’ve seen online I started checking out tutorials. But I was having SUCH a hard time following along with so I had to come up with my own way. A way to cheat but appear to get the same results. Check it out, Easy Rhinestone Jewelry on Mom Spark!

And if you made it this far, sorry for the whining. And I don’t want you to think that it’s this horribly grotesque looking hand because it’s not but I’m still very sensitive about it. Not really sure how this wound up coming out of me, but it’s real and it’s honest so I’m going to leave it. Hoping you have a fantastically optimistic Tuesday!

Comments (12)

  • Christine

    May 7, 2013 at 3:01 PM

    You have inspired me to pick my crotchet needle up again…. Despite your injury you never gave up and kept trying and practicing holding the needle, I have no excuses really! Thanks for sharing… Now to find an easy project to start crocheting! :)

  • Allison Murray

    May 7, 2013 at 7:53 PM

    I'm so glad, Christine! Enjoy your new project!!!

  • Lauren @ The Thinking Closet

    May 8, 2013 at 6:17 AM

    I have great respect for you opening up about this, Allison. I think it's really easy, especially with blogging, to glamorize life and only show certain aspects. Why would we chose to show the tough parts…the raw bits? Well, I know I choose to because that's true to life, and I'm most drawn to bloggers who share honestly and from the heart with their readers, as you do! So, thank you for this. We all have a "right pinky" so to speak…something about ourselves that is a source of shame and frustration and that we've wondered, "Why me?" So, hearing your story makes us all feel a bit more relieved…that we're not alone! And it makes me wowed by your awesome creations all the more. You are definitely someone who perseveres. That I am sure of.

    The Thinking Closet

  • Allison Murray

    May 8, 2013 at 2:40 PM

    Thanks, Lauren. I couldn't even proofread the post because I knew that I'd take something out and it's all there for a reason :) I actually met somebody in a store who recognized my shoes from the blog and she kept mentioning my perfect life. I feel badly if that is the persona I put out there because I'm hardly perfect and this definitely shows that! Thanks for your support, kindness and friendship. You are one amazing lady!

  • Jess @ Make and Do Girl

    May 9, 2013 at 2:57 PM

    Having something happen to my busy, busy hands has always been one of my biggest fears. It's inspiring to hear that you've gotten through it and from the looks of your projects, are craftier and more prolific than ever!

  • Allison Murray

    May 9, 2013 at 3:03 PM

    It had been one of my fears for a long, long time. Especially so when I became an adult and my career depended on my hands so much. But we do what we have to do, right? Thanks so much for your sweet comment and the fact that you took the time to make it, Jess.

  • Midsommarflicka

    May 11, 2013 at 11:37 PM

    Wow, knowing this makes the things you are doing with your hands even more great while seeing them all here on your blog! I think, it gives everything another, bigger value…
    I can (maybe? or maybe not?) imagine, how it is, to write about something so personal, so I feel I need to give you a feeling of courage, but I don't really know what to say (and my english lets me down here…!). I'm just hoping, you get a little bit of this feeling with every new comment here, that is appreciating your courage to tell about this!

    Love, Midsommarflicka

  • Allison Murray

    May 12, 2013 at 10:12 PM

    Thanks, Mid. I appreciate your thoughts and your considerate comment. Lots of love back!!

  • chris

    May 13, 2013 at 12:59 PM

    I know how u feel. I have had back problems all my life. (Scoliosis) when I had to quit work I started crafting with a vengeance. Then 5 years ago I had to have another back surgery. The surgery lasted so long and I lost too much blood. The results was a small stroke and loss of blood flow to the optic nurve. I have permanent loss of sight in my left eye and only 10% vision in my right eye. But, the good news is that the vision I have is good and I have found that with lots of light & magnifying glasses not only can I do most crafts I can still do my beading and make my jewelry. Like you I didn't quit. We just have to keep going and be happy with what we can still do. You are an inspiration to us all. Thanks for sharing ur story & listening to mine. Hang in there & keep blogging. We love ur crafts!!!! Chris

  • Allison Murray

    May 13, 2013 at 5:50 PM

    Hey, Chris. Thanks so much for sharing your story. I can truly appreciate anyone who pushes through the obstacles in front of them to maintain a happy life. For us that happy life includes crafting even if it's a little (and some days A LOT) more difficult than we'd like. I'm so very, very glad that you didn't quit. Some days when I want to, I can come back here and read your comment and be renewed. :)

  • Comet

    September 11, 2013 at 4:04 PM

    I admire your persistence—I have “lost”–yeah I really AM that careless!!!–part of a leg and the toes on the other foot–now WHERE did they get to???—and people are forever saying to me–OH! You are sooo brave! Um–no. I am not brave. What I am is happy to not wake up dead–that was apparently the other option for that whole toe dealie—And just get ON with my life. And then there are people like an on line person who told my daughter–Your mom is the WORST kind of “handicapped” person! Because when they pull into the “Handicapped Parking ” space and get out you can’t TELL what their handicap is!

    So happy to know I can piss people off just by being alive.

    The “best revenge” for me is when we ride our big motorcycle and when we pull into that Handicapped Space my husband will notice the stares ‘n’ glares and take his sweet biker time about fetching out the Official Tag of Handicappedness to clip on the windscreen. Let ’em stare! IF they think watching me get OFF the bike–as hubs unfolds my special Travel Walker they forgot to notice hanging off the back—then watching me get ON is hysterical. Not only am I short but I am shorter on one side! Well not if I have my faux leg on but===I still have to use a STEP STOOL to get ON that big bike! It’s right about THERE that the Oh you are soooo brave comments start to flow—ugh.

    Brave is saving your buddies from the IED. Brave is facing a terminal condition. Brave is sometimes just getting out of bed. I am NOT brave.

    You conquered your fear and got on with your life–now THAT is brave!!!!!

    1. Allison

      September 11, 2013 at 4:48 PM

      Oh goodness, Comet. I’m hardly brave but I truly appreciate your saying so. And I think you have far more bravery than you give yourself credit for…

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